Man and woman relationship is not all that simple. It is a complicated affair. Both have to make sincere efforts to keep the relationship going. It might be very romantic initially, but over time, as one settles into family life, situations arise that require a lot of patience and self-control. The responsibility of rearing children and running the household can cause much tension and friction between the couple. Still, those who can overcome these hindrances lead a blissful marital life.
Life is not that easy. There are moments in a couple’s life when both cannot understand each other well and tend to fight over trivial matters. In other words, their marriage is on the rocks.
Women usually prefer their marriage to be a success because of children. They are committed to their husbands because of their emotional need for security. Financially, they are dependent on their husbands, too. But there are situations when a woman decides to leave her husband. She feels divorce is a better option than sticking to a relationship, which she feels is now dead and devoid of any bliss.
Nowadays, men cannot take women for granted. Women do opt for divorce. Why is this so?
Why women prefer to divorce a man?
1. Infidelity
Infidelity on the husband’s part often leads a woman to divorce her husband. Men usually have a roving eye and fall prey easily to other women’s sexual outreach. An educated wife cannot tolerate this and prefers to opt for divorce. Once trust is broken due to infidelity, it’s challenging to rebuild the relationship again. Most of the time, a woman does not want to stay in the relationship as it undermines her self-worth.
2. Financial Independence
Financial independence has also made a woman seek a divorce. She prefers not to tolerate her husband’s rude and intolerable behavior towards her. With her income, a woman feels empowered to make decisions. It ensures that she doesn’t rely on her spouse for her necessities.
3. The “Other Man” Syndrome
The “other man syndrome” is also another reason for a woman to seek divorce. Many women fall in love with another man and prefer to divorce their husbands to marry again. Another partner might offer the emotional support lacking in the current relationship. Some women also go for a new connection for happiness and a stress-free life.
4. Family Pressures
Family pressures are also other reasons which make a woman seek a divorce. Sometimes, a woman may find the mother-in-law too interfering and may not like this. In the East, many live in a joint family system, but now nuclear families are taking over. Often, the lack of support from elders is also leading to divorce. Also, young women do not like interference from other family members in their marital affairs. In the West, of course, this is not so, but at times, the man may be too involved with his mother’s well-being, which may cause friction with his wife. Lack of boundaries with extended family strains a marital relationship. If a couple cannot keep their matrimonial issues private, it might result in external pressures.
5. Boredom
Boredom is also another reason why women leave their husbands. They get tired of their routine married life and seek “new pastures.” Over time, monotony drives a woman to seek new experiences outside the relationship. A feeling that one’s relationship growth is stunted leads to restlessness and often ends up in divorce.
6. Sexual Incompatibility
Sexual incompatibility is another reason for a woman seeking divorce from her husband. Unfulfilled physical needs create a significant rift, and there is nothing wrong with it, as sexual incompatibility signals a more profound emotional disconnect.
7. Domestic Violence
Wife beating is another reason why a woman seeks divorce. In the West and as well as in the East, drunken husbands often beat their wives. In the West, women usually seek separation, but in the East, those who are illiterate continue to remain with their husbands. The educated women, of course, seek divorce. Physical safety becomes a prime importance, driving the decision to leave. If children are involved, a woman might ensure safety from an abusive environment.
Conclusion
Divorce is becoming an option for many women these days. They prefer to leave their husbands in case they feel neglected or their husbands are unreasonable and make impossible demands on them.
6 Comments
My divorce hit me like a ton of bricks. I love my wife, (or did). She is the mother of our four children. She was my love of my life. I was 7 years older than her and have been faithful to her all our married life. But she thinks different. she has on several occasions stated to me that I was cheeting on her. I work in a profession mainly of women. I am a medical assistant and certified Pharmacy technician. she thinks just because that i am a frindly person to my co-workers that I should not have friends at work. We all work as a team and if we didnt have our friend-ship we could not work together so closely. She thinks that just because that i give attention to other women,(who are married or not married), who i work very well with that I am cheating on her. The end of our marrige started in January 2011. My wife said to my face that she was not stasified with our marriage and wanted out. That she did not love me anymore and she wanted me out. She tells me this after i was already in bed. She did not sleep in the bed with me , but waited for me to leave for work to get in bed, that started about 6 years ago. She did not want to have sex with me. She flerted with men to make me jellous, but I did not respond to her stupid reactions to other men. I did discuss her actions with her , she replied that I did this with my work wives. I tried to explain that in the medical field you have to work as a team and thats why she saw me as having friends around me all the time. She did and does not understand this at all. This divorce is the wrong thing to do, but she will not give me a second chance. She is turning our children against me. They do not come to all there visitations. They skip one and that means i do not see them for a month. As hard as i try to not blame her I have tried to blame me . but i have not done anything wrong, but she makes me feel like all this is my fault and she is not takeing any of the blame for any of this, “It all LIEs on MY shoulders”. but she is the one Who filed for the divorce, not me. I just need advice on how to go on with my life. we were , or are still married and were married for 23 years before we split. our 24th wedding anniversery will be this year. I thought we would grow old together, but I guess not.I would like to really know why my wife is divorceing me???????????????
as for me having revolving eyes , I think every man looks, but I know not to touch. and i never did. spite what my wife is saying.
David, it took me 3 years to learn to live again after I realized all that my ex wife had done to destroy me and my children by divorce. She married the hidden man 6 days after the divorce. Do not think any longer of having a wedding anniversary. I was married 16 years with 6 children. There is so much I could tell you about what this woman did to destroy me, but like you, she used sex as a weapon to get what she wanted or to inflict pain on you. You really are much better off being away from such a woman who has no compassion and cannot know the Lord if she does such things to her husband.
Get some friends, go with a brother or co-worker on a 10 day cruise and relax once in a while. Go to the Gym often. Do not speak to your ex-wife. Only communicate through email so that you have copies as women like her may cause legal troubles for you.
See your children as often as you can. If you live far away, every 3 months. If you live close, one weekend a month without her interfering at all.
It is best to live far enough away that she will not come by to bother you. This could turn legally ugly.
Be very honest with all future women and you will find that there are women who will not treat you this way and want a man that wants to treat them calmly as well. When that happens, you will forget all the pain you have felt.
Get your kids to adulthood and they will come your way since it is unlikely that she will be as generous to help them financially as you will be. She is at heart selfish.
This is how it is, with as little as I know about her. Her treatment of you shows great selfishness which is the greatest of the causes of divorce.
Rich Henkle
I am with my wife for almost 12 years since we knew each other. Then one day after 5 years into a relationship we decide to get married. In the beginning it was going smoothly and no troubles at all. She was going to work and I was going to work too. Sometimes we have disagreements on matters and she just gets mad easily losing controls. Maybe she wasn’t satisfied with me because i am not rich or having many resources available to her. After our second to third years of marriage we began to agrues a lot and sometimes we are unhappy about stuffs going on. I tried very hard to make her happy and always comfort her when there were problems. But she was just not happy at all. Then years past by one day I came home from work I told her i wasn’t happy too due to the problems we are having; I am trying very hard to resolved the problems we are having with our marriage. She was working all the times and I am working too. Maybe we don’t see each other a lot and we didn’t spend enough time together to be more understanding about being a couple. I was very disappointed too and she was crying too. And after this happens just a few weeks she decided to leave and forget about the relationship. It is insane and she just walk out of my life.
Everything is always wrong with the husband when the wife has another man on her mind. When the wife starts accusing you for being unfaithful and you know your not guilty. That is when the red flag needs to trigger that brain. I do not remember where I heard this but a man once told me ” If a woman is not riding the horse yet, she is about to saddle up” You can bet your bottom dollar there is someone at work or where ever her little circle is. There is a connection starting with someone She will want more and more time with this person and will look you in the eyes and lie to your face. Things she will say when you may question her wanting to go out is “You do not trust me, when do I have time to have a affair. All I do is take care or this or that and all I want is time to myself. Ding, ding the bell or red flag should be going up. Another good one is when the wife tries to make you thing your crazy for even thinking such a thing. Pay attention men.. Love can be blind but take those blinders off. Know the signs……
Well with most women today that are real filthy whores which doesn’t really surprise me at all. Been there.