You see your son’s bag and realize that it is too dirty; looking at its messy condition, you open the zip and peep inside to see the different things lying in it; you then take out other things. Slowly, you take out stuff that does not belong to your child. There are a few erasers as well as pencils, which you never bought for him. To crosscheck, you confirm the same with your husband but realize that the things don’t belong to your kid. However, thinking that every child does this sort of ‘stealing,’ you nod, keep the stuff bag and forget everything about it.
If you have ever done the above thing, I want to congratulate you on spoiling your kid’s future sarcastically. Many parents believe that stealing little things is okay because kids don’t remember which items belong to them and belong to their classmates. Honestly, it is not normal for your child to steal. If he has done it once, he can do it again and again and all over again.
Bringing up children is a difficult task for parents, and in case the kids happen to steal, it is more challenging to do so. Kids who are four years old or less may not understand that it is wrong for them to keep someone else object. But when they are 5 or 6 years old or above, they can well understand that it is not right to take something that belongs to another person. School kids realize this very well. Yet some children steal.
But why does my kid steal? You wonder. Following are the top ten reasons for you to know why kids steal:
Top 10 Reasons Why Do Kids Steal
1) Learning from Elders
Have you ever stolen anything in front of him? Have you ever taken out money or credit card from your partner’s wallet without letting him or her know about it? If you have done this, he is undoubtedly learning it from you. Tomorrow if he steals money from your wallet, don’t be surprised about it – he is growing just the way you are raising him. When kids follow their family members or friends if they happen to be stealing, it is known as peer pressure. Be very cautious as kids watch all of your actions in most cases would try to emulate their elders. They would feel that if elders are doing it, then there is no wrong in copying them.
2) He thinks that ‘it is cool’
No doubt television shows and movies keep the little kids busy; but trust me – such movies and shows also spoil the mind of your little one. There are a lot of movies in which the protagonists are shown as thieves, portraying cool images about them.
3) Someone is teaching him the habit
Your child can pick up the habit from someone who is a kleptomaniac and is in his class. If he has a friend or is in bad company in style, there are chances for him to steal. Such children often turn into shoplifters in the future. Thus, you have to keep an eye on what your child does.
4) Because you always say NO
I understand that it is difficult for the parents to cope with their kids’ demands, but don’t say NO to him all the time. If you keep neglecting his needs, there are chances for him to steal. Sometimes they feel something is lacking in their lives. Jealousy also could be a reason for this ill behavior. They often feel a sense of inadequacy that they do not have certain things in life. They might even have a feeling of lack of affection or love and might be feeling neglected in their homes, due to which they could get this bad habit as a sign of revolt.
5) You are not clear to him
If there is something that you can’t buy, say it openly but calmly. Never give fake hopes to your kids. The most beautiful thing about a child is that he understands when you say it plainly to him. Instead of telling him that you would not buy his favorite toy because you know that you can’t afford it, please don’t lie to him that you would buy it for him the next month. If you don’t believe it, he may steal. Lack of self-control could be another reason for his behavior. Children come across something, and they would like to possess it. They should be told about the difference between good and bad properly. Stealing is often a habit that kids from in childhood when parents fail to reprimand the child for taking something that does not belong to him or her.
6) Someone is threatening him
There are a lot of kids who get bullied in their class. If someone is driving your kid, he may not even tell you that someone threatens him to steal stuff. Don’t scold him if he ever reveals his fear against a particular child to you; instead, find a solution to help him overcome his fear.
7) Teaching Principles of Life
Have you ever sat with your kid and told him what he must do and what he must not? If you haven’t done it yet, it is time for you to do so; a list of principles always comes in handy for the little ones. Even your jokes and games are being taken seriously by your baby. For instance, if you keep stealing his things and lie to him that you haven’t taken them, then he is bound to steal and say that he didn’t do it.
8) Psychological Problem
It could be a compulsive disorder or rather a psychological problem due to faulty upbringing. Some kids do not bother about rules. They want to do what they please. Some kids also steal to gain attention. They probably did not get the required attention at home, so they seek it from outside by doing wrong things.
9) Attention
I don’t suggest any parent be nagging enough to make their kids hate them, but until he is old enough to make his own decisions, you have to see everything he does.
10) You ignore his ill behavior
The next time you find something in your kid’s hand, find out if it belongs to him. If it doesn’t, it is time for you to ‘teach him some discipline.’ Stealing is a habit that parents need to check if their kids are indulging in it. The child often gets immense pleasure by taking something that belongs to someone else. If it persists, it is better to consult a counselor.
FAQs on Reasons Why Do Kids Steal
What can parents do if their child is stealing?
If you suspect your child is stealing, it is important to address the behavior immediately. Here are some steps you can take:
- Talk to your child: Sit down with your child and have an open and honest conversation about their behavior. Try to understand why they are stealing and offer support and guidance.
- Set clear boundaries: Let your child know that stealing is not acceptable and that there will be consequences if they continue to do it.
- Seek professional help: If your child’s stealing behavior is part of a larger issue, such as a mental health condition, it may be helpful to seek professional help.
- Lead by example: Make sure that you are modeling ethical behavior for your child and setting a good example.
How can schools address the issue of stealing among students?
Schools can take several steps to address stealing among students, including:
- Educating students: Schools can teach students about the importance of honesty and integrity and the consequences of stealing.
- Creating a safe environment: Schools can take steps to create a safe and secure environment where stealing is less likely to occur.
- Implementing consequences: Schools can have clear consequences in place for stealing, such as suspension or expulsion.
- Working with parents: Schools can work with parents to address stealing behavior and provide support and guidance.
- Providing counseling: Schools can offer counseling services to students who are struggling with emotional or behavioral issues that may be contributing to their stealing behavior.
Are there any long-term consequences of stealing for kids?
Yes, there can be long-term consequences of stealing for kids. Some of the possible consequences include the following:
- Criminal record: If a child is caught stealing, it could result in a criminal record that can follow them into adulthood.
- Damage to relationships: Stealing can damage relationships with family members, friends, and authority figures.
- Legal trouble: Stealing can lead to legal trouble and possible fines or even imprisonment.
- Financial consequences: If a child steals money or valuable items, they may face financial consequences such as having to pay restitution or damages.
- Negative self-image: Stealing can contribute to a negative self-image and a lack of self-esteem.
